Many people strive for a safe life; one that doesn’t include strive or drama. This also includes staying within whatever lines we’ve drawn, or were given as our moral compass.
I find, however, that staying safe inside the lines reminds me too much of the saying “A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not ships are built for”. And its true.
The world can be a dangerous place, but there’s also fun adventure, wonderful experiences, and amazing people to meet. Sure you’ll find the quacks and weirdos, the misfits, and villains who pit themselves against everything you believe in.
But you know what? That’s also Life.
Even after some ‘friends’ burned me badly by gossip and talking behind my back, I still ventured out into the world to meet new friends, dealing with my own internal pain yet rising above my fears to find some worthwhile friendships.
Writing isn’t so different. I think as storytellers we need to extend our imagination into the depths of darkness, to look villainy in the eye, to push our character through incredibly bad things, so they can rise up above that, to hone their skills, to find their strength, and to make it out to the other side.
“Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
Some of the most powerful lesson you’ll learn comes from the greatest pain. Isn’t the real tragedy of any bad experience if nothing was gained? Mistakes, as I often tell my son, are perfectly fine providing you learn from them.
“Fear makes the wolf bigger”.
Some instances also reflect how we cope with those situations. Is your conflict bigger than it is simply because you’ve added fear and anger, inflating the problem with worries and ‘what might happen’, rather than what will be?
Be daring and bold when you write. Extend past your comfort zone to see what’s out there. Maybe you’ll find adventure.